Dear Casper and Bill,
Lately I've been hanging out with a great guy. He's really cool and we have a lot of fun together, but he's in a relationship with a girl who lives on the other side the country. They've been together for a few years, and both have been discussing having an open relationship. He recently asked if I would be willing to do it. I'm not seeing anyone, so the relationship won't really be open for me, and I'm concerned about getting too attached and hurt. Do you think open relationships can work?
Dear Go For It,
If these two have been doing this type of dating for a number of years, they do not intend to take it beyond this arrangement. So, now that you find him cool and fun to be with, you might as well sharpen your wits and nails and get him to recognize that you are the one for him . . . maybe.
You have work to do. Do not feel intimated by his West Coast chickie; she is on the prowl out there in la-la-land looking for her local fun-and-games buddy. Just by asking these two curmudgeons to guide you indicates your keen interest in this guy. We say go for it, honey, before you're left in the dust. Pounce!
Dear Casper and Bill,
I recently moved to Concord to take a position at an animal hospital. My coworkers and I all hang out at the bars after work, and I ended up sleeping with one of them at the end of a night of drunken debauchery. Now, he wants to go on a date with me. I don't particularly have feelings for him, but I feel like we should go on some dates just so I don't get that reputation as that girl who has one night stands with her coworkers. Help!
Dear Debauched,
That one night stand is no longer a secret. Believe us when we say that everyone now knows all about your fling in the sack.
We've all been there (except us, of course), but everyone else we know has had one-nighters, so your reputation is already out there among your animal-loving coworkers.
Based on how your after-hours time is spent, it is probably a sure thing that many of your drinking buddies have done the same thing. We know some very pet-loving active seniors in our community who would love to be a part of your happy hour times and would really love to join you to get debauched.
Maybe we can get you all a senior discount for the cocktails, too. Grrrr!
