Dear Elders, I lost my spouse a couple of years ago. I am entertaining the idea of dating. As it has been many years since I last went on a date, I'd like some advice on how to approach the dating scene of today.
Did I read "a couple of years ago"?
Get on with your life and start dating immediately, you deserve it! Pick yourself up and sign up with a speed dating service; you'll meet dozens of prospects in about an hour and your eyes will be opened.
Make sure you wear a red dress or, if you are a man, a red tie, as the color red will set the prospective dates on fire.
Also, search on Internet dating services; enter your wishes and kaboom . . . you'll find a match!
Start today, you have no time to waste.
As you did not mention your age, I don't know if you may have school-age children. One avenue to meeting someone might be to get involved in your children's school and community activities.
"Dear Abby" always recommends church involvement. A great many people of all ages seem to be successful using on-line dating services.
I don't think the relational part of dating has changed that much. Follow your instincts and see where it leads you. I am sure there are others out there asking the same questions you are.
Rather than start out looking for a date, try gathering friends. Join groups of people of all ages who have special interests that you have or could have.
If you like the outdoors, the Y has programs. Bird watching, canoeing, fishing, etc., come to mind.
If you like to read, there are plenty of book clubs, connect through book stores, the library, friends, etc.
The main idea is to mix with people who like things you like, but don't limit yourself to one group with one interest. You will meet people the way you did in school, a large mixed bag.
Any one of these people may attract you. You can find out if the person is already married, and then you can broach the subject of dating, starting with coffee, dinners, trips and so on.
Forget "dating." What you need to do is get out and meet more people.
Think of activities you would like but are not currently doing. Pick one or two, preferably ones which appeal to both sexes. If they don't pan out, try some others.
If you don't find your heart's desire, at least you will have some fun and make some other friends.
Always good to hear that someone is ready to get into the social environment after losing a loved one . . . how is the most difficult decision.
Today there are several ways to meet someone. The online dating services are a beginning. I know several friends that have met the loves of their life through these services. Letting friends, neighbors and co-workers know of your feelings will also help. The Monitor has had advertisements for singles get togethers at local clubs/pubs.
I feel that you are thinking positive, so get out your best outfit and get ready to party and dance the night away and pucker up those lips. Good luck on finding your soul mate.